On wrong path ALL steps wrong - in wrong relationship all wrong
relationship needs preparation - without preparation ANY relationship ALWAYS wrong !!
Dear George
1 Angry gets who is without love
angry gets who is without love - finally you get angry about your very own missing capability to love - about your very own weakness to love. the true lover loves and never gets angry about anything at all.
2. Jealous is only the one empty of true love
jealous can only be the one who wants to posses instead of to love
the one truly loving always is giving all
all = WHAT ??
see the many topics in the secrets of love section as well as the microletters and newsletters in addition to all chapters of "on your wings of love - on your way to god"
3. Take all the written lessons really serious
there would be plenty to write
but all is already written
all that is written applies to you
you like to bypass the most important lessons of love
...
hence you keep on having problems
how long
thousands of years or millions of years ...
until YOU start to learn AND apply step by step from top to bottom of all that is given to you all/BOTH
4. BEFORE new relationship should be started BOTH need to BE READY
BEFORE new relationship should be started BOTH need to BE READY - hence to be PREPARED in ALL aspects
it is impossible to have solid quality software on a crashy operating system isn't it ??
hence same applies for love
it is IMPOSSIBLE to have solid DEEP and TRUE love on a emotional junkyard that NONE of the 2 ever really cleaned up
5. Whoever calls ex-boyfriend / ex-girlfriend has UNSOLVED business that FIRST needs to BE solved in love
whoever calls ex-boyfriend / ex-girlfriend
has UNSOLVED business that FIRST needs to BE solved in love - TOGETHER WITH THAT ONE being called !
alone of course
it may take months or years
how long - how many visits ??
until either true love between the two or all FREE for a NEW relationship
6. A jealous partner
a jealous partner has zero love and thus NEVER can be a happy-making partner at all !!
until true love has been cultivated toward ALL
true love gives FULL freedom without asking ANY questions
true love never sends SMS and never wants to control
true love only wants to MAKE happy
true love never counts the money ( your: i educated her for that job. we were at the seaside together - at 100% my expense.
shows that you count the money invested in her future ...
A strong lover NEVER ever can be jealous - he knows about the purity of his love and can let go whle keeping on to love - if necessaruy all lifetime and beyond. A stingy lover however KNOWS about the limits of his tiny love and fears loss of his beloved -
hence the jealousy = knowledge about losing
there is but one cure for jealousy
to lose
to increase love to FULL love free of any limits
free of any restrictions
until love is TRUE love = God's loves
7. ESPECIALLY in this situation?
your: "ESPECIALLY in this situation?"
there is NO need to pity YOU just because your grandfather went on his way home to God ...
life goes on HERE and NOW on earth for all - for your girl friend as well
there is NO TIME left to waste and wait until YOU may feel ready to progress
she did what all - me too - would have done
use the temporary freedom during your absence
during your presence she is occupied and possessed/controlled by you and thus has zero freedom to do what she FEELS needs to be done ... to get in peace with her past and may be to FIND HER WAY back to HIM in love !!
your existence in life may serve but ONE sole purpose
to act as spiritual catalyst
i am sure you have read my chapter about such
http://www.kriyayoga.com/love_blog/post.php/418
8. The true lover NEVER asks why
the true lover NEVER asks why
the true lover only loves
9. Love is the only reason to call an ex lover
he has the same "rights" as you have
you can call
he can call ...
anyone you / he / she wants !!
your:
"I went to him and asked him directly - why do you still call her"
HE too is a child of God
HE too has ALL freedom to do, to call whoever whenever HE loves to
YOUR girlfriend is as much HIS as she is YOURS !!
since a TRULY loving and FREE meeting of ANY duration - even days or weeks - NEVER is possible or sanctioned by YOU while together, BOTH he and your girlfriend only can meet when left in peace by YOU - hence when YOU away or busy
YOU never gave ANY or BOTH a chance to either love each other OR get in peace WITH EACH OTHER
all YOU want is to OWN, possess and control HER
a very selfish way of life
empty of ANY even the smallest bit of true love !!
10. We all have the divine right to meet all at any time - to love all at any time
no matter who is partner of who
at home in God we ALL are ONE family
we all can MEET each other
we all will LOVE each other
we all will HUG each other
again and again
eternally
11. Fake love always is dishonest - possessive love always is fake love - jealousy is the proof for fake love
your:
"I was angry because he is not honest with me and is not saying what he
is thinking..."
you too never sway what you really think and feel DEEPEST inside
deep inside YOU have ZERO true love neither for HIM nor for your girlfriend
only revanche and possession
no love for any of the two
hence NO peace of heart and mind as well
12. Long talks are needed where huge ego resides - love never talks - except sweet pillow talk !!
what a person says can be a lie - what a person feels also can be a lie - hence who is the greater liar of two liars - the one telling a lie to ears or the one loving a lie to hearts ??
your
"We had a long talk. She said she knows what i like and dislike and as
long as i forbid her to do whatever she wants - she will feel the need
to escape and do it deliberately"
every prisoner always will escape to search FREEDOM and TRUE love
YOUR selfishness has taken ALL above from your girlfriend
you may hold her body
possess her body
own her body
like a slave
but you NEVER may have one second her heart and true love that way !!
13. Forbidding to meet people is proof of extreme absence of love
her:
"you forbid me even meeting people!"
she is fully right
that is what you do and the worst of all
you even belief to be right in your extreme selfishness and possessiveness
14. At full service for her OR fully loving her ??
the worst of all is your:
"As i said - every day i am at full service for her "
proves that nothing at all you do for her is OUT OF true love
service in exchange of HER body and herself being a true slave to you
15. She is scared to love ... in her situation most would be scared if that is love what she experiences ...
your:
"she is scared to love ..."
every girl would be scared is she thinks that all nightmares experienced would be love for ever ...
what she experiences now and all past months is nothing but a true nightmare to make HER strong to make a CLEAN decision of HER heart ONLY
a decision based on TRUE LOVE
then when in a true love relationship - she never will have to worry about finances no gifts again
a true relationship in LOVE with a true lover will be an infinite source of love for ALL
above and far beyond the need of material Christmas and other presents
16. A girl can only have an orgasm if the man GIVES her the love needed for an orgasm
fake love, selfishness never can create orgasms - only true love can CREATE an "orgasm" !
the more love flows from man to woman - the faster a girl has an orgasm and the more orgasm she has - the more sweet and easy orgasms a girl can have
your:
"she needs longer sex for an orgasm so she rarely gets it"
it is TRUE love from MAN TO woman that GIVES/creates orgasm IN woman
a jealous possessive man has none of the above
hence girl has difficulties to have orgasm at all
a girl should always select a man who can give easy or multiple orgasms as proof or true love FOR HER
a girl needs to FALL IN LOVE to have orgasm easily
17. If a girl doesn't want all the semen
The semen as a direct reflection and manifestation of a man's LOVE is lacking purity and hence is simply short of being delicious for her heart and soul.
semen is like food
some food is delicious
while other food is horrible and disgusting
all love to eat delicious fresh tasty food
all girls love to absorb in full the divine love from the RIGHT man and most girls may fully deny to do so from the WRONG man.
your:
"BTW she doesn't want/like at all semen or similar"
it is a proof that YOUR semen=your love is WRONG for her
the semen from the right man / lover ALWAYS is felt/tasted as something delicious, healing and exciting for the right girl !!
the same applies to HER refusing to let you give her oral sex
oral sex ONLY is enjoyable FOR ANY loving girl if oral sex is coming FROM THE RIGHT one
from a totally wrong man a girl never can enjoy pleasure in oral sex
oral sex is one of the single most powerful truelove tests
On wrong path ALL steps wrong
on wrong path ALL steps wrong
with wrong partner ALL action wrong
!!
BOTH OF YOU totally failed ALL and every of the love tests - any and all repeated times
and still belief to belong together without being ready to FIRST learn to love ALL
BOTH of you NOW should realize that there is plenty to learn BEFORE starting any new3 relationship - and both never should be attracted by weakness or whining partner but by a strong and true lover only.
...
first things first
step by step
you too
before writing any more
it is beneficial for you to FIRST READ ALL and then DO all
as you DO all - all your existing problems will be dissolved as much as any further questions
all of above IS already published
it is true and valid to all in all situations - to you as well !!
Without true spiritual progress NO success in love
darkness is where jealousy is
darkness is where control is
darkness is where people have lost their freedom to meet anyone anytime
darkness is where people have lost the freedom to meet old friends or previous lovers
in a world of love all are free
in a world of love all can meet all at any given time
in a world of light and love all protect or establish the freedom of suppressed ones
in a world of light and love the happiness and love of OTHERS is more important than the own happiness
to leave HER is in no way coward
to leave her alone is a TRUE PROOF of real love
to let her meet her previous and any other boyfriend or to fall in love with who ever she loves to fall in love is a true proof of love
learn to let her go
enjoy HER being happy the way SHE wants to be happy
enjoy HER smiling with WHO ever SHE wants to smile
that and only THAT is true love
before we can have an eternal partner we have to learn to drop any possessiveness
and increase the pure power of love
giving without taking
giving ALL
giving MORE if all is too little
giving as much until all are happy
then one day you may receive the fruits of your long lasting repeated giving
from the ONE God sends you
from the ONE attracted by the divinity and purity of love
never from the one scared of a jealous lover
but from the one who loves ALL those who helped her while you have been on your dark side of life and creation
it is NOT AT ALL her to awake
it is YOU to awake and to START true love
it is you who needs help and progress FIRST
she just has been the one to show you all the many weak areas of your heart and love. for a brief time she has been a "spiritual teacher" to you - needed for YOUR very own spiritual success
the few thousand or ten thousand $ you ever may have "invested in her" is just a tiny little salary all have to pay to a teacher bringing them back to God. hence never think about you paid FOR her - but think how CHEAP a teacher she has been to you and how much you saved by her patient way to cope with all the dark jealousy and possessiveness you showed her.
there could have been much more expensive and far more painful ways to teach you - God always offers the easiest, most pleasant and most loving methods first and offers the other more direct methods only to those rejecting solutions of love ...
be grateful to her having given you insight of the many problems WITHIN YOUR self
Better a partner later but for love only - without laws, without restrictions - just nurrished and attracted by your love. Even if it takes more than one lifetime. Here and now you both learn for eternity - that is a very long time compared to the few years of jealsy and messy relationship you encounter now.
Now it is first time to learn in smaller steps the beginning of true love - step one - give freedom - TOTAL freedom, let go and be free yourself, free to learn to love.
god bless
hans
