Cheating on a husband, cheating on a wife - cheating on a partner - who to blame for cheating - the one cheating or the one causing cheating ??
if 1 person cheats another, who to blame ?
the one who cheats or the one who causes the one to cheat by denying to give love or rejecting to accept / absorb all love ??
the one who searches for love or the one who refuses to love ??
The physiology of cheating a partner is very simple - the relationship between the one who cheats and the one who has been cheated precise
The one who cheats is the one who has been extensively and excessively neglect by the one he cheated !! 2 ways to neglect a partner:
- rejecting partially or fully any and all love offered
- denying partially or fully to give truly ALL love possible
A man OR a woman has an extreme tolerance for sexual negligence until that one reaches a state of spiritual emergency when the hunger FOR love is so huge as a result of repeated or permanent negligence that the neglect one searches for alternate sources of love outside his partnership.
The one who cheats is the one who has been neglect most by the cheated one
It is YOU who neglect your girl to the extent to have caused that spiritual emergency and excessive hunger AND NEED FOR LOVE that caused her to "cheat" on you. Hence it is YOU who first cheated on HER by denying to LOVE her in FULL - all the way, sexually, spiritually, physically, in all ways !!
NO single person EVER can be without being loved. to be loved means to be IN love
to be in love is comparable to be in water -- there needs to be something you can PLUNGE into, or FALL into.
To be in love requires a huge FLOWING stream of metaphysical love that your "girl" can truly FALL in love with you. i have many chapters in my blog - category love and secrets of love about exactly that topic.
Partners can cheat each others even in astral body, fantasy, mind or out of body experiences
If YOU EVER have cheated your girl in your mind, fantasy or any OBE attempt / astral projection attempt - then you receive in your own physical world exactly what you have done in your astral body or mind !
Your preferences of OBE - Out of Body Experiences - and astral projection shows that you love to escape your present and only true reality - your physical lessons ... HERE and NOW you have ONE reality that is directly and fully relevant to ALL aspects of your life and lessons - to learn to love in full and divinely IN your physical body and WITH your physical body !! all else follows automatically later when you have eventually successfully finished ALL major spiritual lessons THIS present entire physical incarnation has to offer to you. the essential lesson among many others is sexuality with ONE partner to the extent that this ONE girl is so extremely and fully satisfied and happy that she NEVER ever could even dream or think of cheating as a result of ABUNDANCE of flowing love - flowing physically AND metaphysically at the very same time.
The question for you is:
Do YOU WANT to make her FULLY happy at all - HERE and NOW ??
if YES - then prove it - do it !!
else
give her free to permanently find a man who wants to make her happy from the very beginning.
Test your love to find your weak points in your own love potential - then improve ALL your weak points you find - many dozen chapters of that section directly applies to you - learn to show and prove that you love her with all your body, heart and soul - be with her whenever she wants it - be the one and only full source of fulfillment of any and every dream she ever should have - of course that also includes ALL her sexual dreams as well as to fully satisfy her sexual HUNGER. FEEL what she needs, wants, dreams of ... girls love oral sex as much as men unless a girl has a very serious problem being girl and being sexy - all girls NEED that proof of love repeatedly and regularly - it gives the a feeling of truly and really being loved - it creates the pre-condition of feeling IN love. To feel IN love requires love to be practiced and proved - in both directions and by both. NOW - here in this situation it ONLY is about YOU - never about what she did, does nor needs to do ... because YOU can fully - to 100% change yourself - but never another person. she came back to you - that means SHE has forgiven you to neglect HER, she has given YOU another chance to make HER feel to be IN LOVE ... that means she is waiting for YOUR FIRST TRUE love toward her. A truly loving man how really GIVES all he possibly COULD give never "dates" a girl for many years - because is a girl si ready to be WITH a man and loved BY that man - then she would instantly FEEL so truly IN love that she would live WITH you right away, even within the first days or weeks. This however your require that YOU as a man - you have the age since you are 30+ ... would offer her shelter and love, security and fulfillment of all her sexy dreams and wishes - all in abundance and day after day in your own household - side by side. If a "date" lasts longer than a few weeks then it is one of the two who failed to prove true love and full commitment to his partner.
The one who fails to give all and or to absorb all causes cheating - hence who is more guilty ?? The one causing distress or the one searching for love ???
If you fail to feel all desires, wishes or hunger for love from your girl or if you fail to directly KNOW it from ASKING her straight away - then ASK her directly about ALL her sexual fantasies. Learn to KNOW her sexual fantasies, sexual desires and hunger for love - even those she may fail to know herself - learn to understand all subconsciously displayed signals of sexual hunger an distress.
Food is for the body and muscles - love including active open sexuality is food for heart and soul - no physical wellbeing without healthy regular food - no emotional or spiritual wellbeing without regular loving sexuality while having a physical body.
How many times a day do YOU need food ... ? That approximately is the number of times she may need LOVE and SEX - sweet or mild, hot or spicy ... depending on mood or hunger - depending on spiritual needs to spiritually and emotionally grow and get healed - by YOU or the one who is willing and ready to heal her and satisfy her. Every girl has a divine right to be loved every time she is hungry for love - the same applies for men as well of course - now however it is about HER needs to be FULLY fulfilled by YOU or anyone else who loves to MAKE happy ... in a physical body. SHE too - your girl - has a physical body that needs, wants and enjoys to BE LOVED - again and again. Astral love is later when you have lost your physical body and learned to practice physical love.
A man in love is ready to have babies - as many as God offers you ... a girl in love loves to have babies from the one she feels in love - God has many children who still need a reincarnation to learn all the lessons you 2 are learning right now. Are you ready to instantly have a baby WITH your present girl ?? Are you ready to have sex without any birthcontrol / lovecontrol or withdrawal of love ?? Are you really ready to GIVE ALL ?? If so then she too can easily be ready to ACCEPT and absorb all you have to give her - including the possibility to become pregnant and receive a baby from you. Else you never can say you are ready to GIVE all ...
ANY jealousy always is proof of lacking love FROM the one who is jealous. ONLY the one who GIVES less than ALL can BE jealous - the one who always GIVES all and thus DOES ALL that is truly possible can only be loving whatever happens - even in a situation of cheating. if YOU are 100% sure you WANT to truly and FULLY love her - then you can prove it to her and then she would instantly FEEL in love. the lacking feeling of being IN love is the result of your lacking true proof of flowing love.
How much is your possible relationship worth to you ? If truly ALL - then you may consider a honeymoon with a relationship therapy where BOTH learn to MAKE happy and to BE happy.
You may plan a many week long honeymoon vacation at a place BOTH of you love - at a place she loves ... whatever place or country that might be. If love you may both come HERE to my places i love - i the Philippines - several other partners did so very successfully to refreshen or even to START a real loving and sexy spiritual marriage and relationship.
Every relationship can be healed if both partners are fully ready for true love for each other
EVERY relationship AN be healed if BOTH are willing to INSTANTLY and fully accept FULL responsibility for ALL their very OWN failures to FULLY give and absorb all love without EVER blaming any other part for his own failures. BOTH usually have made mistakes - repeatedly - one of the mistakes often is that one or both refuse to fully admit ALL inner desires AND NEEDS ... people invite each other for a "coffee" hoping for sex and are inviting cheating and failure. LOVE in ALL aspects possible ALWAYS is the single most important in any and every true love relationship - physical love ... anything else is a lie waiting to explode and fail sooner or later.
Spiritual development requires first of all the full acceptance of ALL needs, wishes, dreams, hunger, desires and the readiness to FACE all, test and live all and learn FROM practicing all ... in love and nothing but true love.
May true love give you the strength to face ALL your lessons with joy in your heart and soul while being IN your body instead of escaping in OBE.
