Basics first

I no where and never mentioned to anyone to idly drift thru life - your presumption however shows that you failed to read the basics of teachings of love. How can you say what God gave to mankind or what Jesus did - without knowing either of both directly and personally ! Stay focused on the basic lessons and basics steps to solve your current problem - and that is to open your heart again for your friend and mother.

If we talk about words - then by default we have to agree on a mutual definition of such words - in case of doubts Webster is the official source of definition of meaning for compassion. Compassion is a word with two opposing meanings from spiritual point of view.

The answer I gave to you is valid for my father as well as self - else I would have replied differently.

Before making me a full-time employee of yourself - please read ALL basics first and you'll see there is no single open question left. After reading comes practice - then all doubts are dissolved.

Love and bliss

hans