When you have set a goal
and the goal appears to become out of reach
... then you have to focus on the goal in increase all your efforts needed
to most directly reach that goal
until you HAVE actually reached your goal
Such rule is valid for any goal in life
whether it's a
goal of love
spiritual goal
personal goal
project goal
business goal
if you see that there is a risk that you may fail to achieve your goal
within the time-frame or time limit set up
then you have to make up your mind
find out what exact action brings you toward that goal
find out the most efficient way to perform needed actions toward your goal
find out what accessory actions are supporting you in reaching your goal
then
find out what action is distracting you from achieving your goal
and drop all such distractions
drop free time
drop pleasure time
work toward your goal
with all your power
with all your resources
with all your skills
with all your knowledge
also
improve skills needed
expand our horizons and accumulate more useful / helpful knowledge
needed to better perform your work
and then
W O R K !
do it all
do it all yourself
never depend on others
never blame others for your failure
your goals are your goals
and your goals are to be achieved by YOU and only by YOU
because having achieved your own goals will make YOU free and strong
hence all the benefits are first of all your benefits
a side effect or additional benefit of course is
the stronger YOU are
the more successful YOU are
the more valuable YOU have become for others
for all world
for all creation
for your own wife as well !
if SE thinks you are too lazy or have too little time for HER
then think about
may be lots may be true
may be YOU just failed to GIVE HER a job in your family business ??
she too needs to be full time employed and full time shareholder /
partner in your life
50-50 !!
you do your part
she does her part
does SHE know her part ?
did YOU tell her ?
did YOU ask her what she loves to do ?
did she publish WHAT SHE wants to do or learn to do ?
if so
teach her
or
tell her where to find a teacher
for her to learn what needs to be learned
to be finally EQUAL partner with you
both working hand in hand
achieving YOUR common goals
goals that create or support a flow
flow of love to create fun or happiness
even scientists know the importance of flow to have fun
see
http://www.isu.unizh.ch/fuehrung/blprojects/FASD/
in general
and
http://www.practising-in-flow.de/flowexp.html
in particular
flow of love is what creates happiness in others
and to create such happiness is what WE - the creators of the flow -
experience as having fun
making OTHER people happy is fun for ANY truly loving person
to allow a flow to happen
place needs to be existing first
place inside the heart of the recipient
the heart needs to be OPEN first - the heart of the potential recipient
the recipient needs to have space to live
space to be
space to enjoy
space to create joy and fun FOR others
space and resources to make himself OTHERS HAPPY
to have such space in life to expand and create
a husband needs to give space to his wife to be part of HIS life
a wife needs to be fully part of family-business
of a man's life
she needs to be at home in HIS heart
she needs to be FREE in his heart
freedom requires space to be and space to enjoy and space to expand or
adventure beyond existing limits
and
when a women selects or accepts a particular man as HER husband - for
life or for ever and ever
SE too needs to be willing and ready to share WITH him
to do together
to work together
to experience together
to adventure together
to have fun together
to create fun together
to make happy together - OTHERS !
to love each other in full
to accept 100% of HIS love and GIVE 100% of HER love
a full flow in both direction
inside girl
inside man
then we have fun
being happy as a result of having made happy
all
including our kids
and or loved one
all at the same time
made to the image of God
means loving all at the same time
each in a very individual special way
always giving ALL love
and always absorbing ALL love
love and bliss
hans