Figure out what is in a man's mind - what is in a man's mind - what does a man want ?

Before a woman can know what a man wants:

• a man needs to admit what he wants
• a man needs to admit what he dreams of
• a man needs to admit his fantasies and unfulfilled desires
• a man needs to admit what is really important to him in a relationship
• hence a man needs to be straight and honest - direct and brave enough to win a jackpot in love

I grew up in a culture where man and girls go out dancing - dancing all night sometimes - to fall in love, to be horny - and by the end of a romantic first evening all had the same ideas and wishes - but almost all ask by the end of the beautiful loving romantic evening: Edo you want to come in for a coffee? or something similar...

How can a woman figure out a man's mind - if that man appears to be an unknown stranger to himself ?

Often I see such key-phrases like "figure out a man's mind" ... but dear girl, how can YOU figure out your lovers mind if HE has no clue about his own mind ??!!

Most men around the world that I now have no idea what is important to them - or what they love, or how to enjoy love, or how to approach a girl or woman.

So if the man of your choice has no idea how to handle his own mind, heart and hormones - how in heaven could you figure out what he wants or needs ....

I have a very typical experience from last summer. I met a nice British man in his best years - with a Filipina girl - both most of the time drunk. One day we had a talk - man to man - the key was that he loved sexy girls but ask for "only friends - no sex before marriage". what he actually wanted and needed and thirsted deep inside was one totally different story from what he told his girl by eMail and by talking to her. Hence for that reason he got himself into a dilemma that was the root cause for their both drinking - because both were horny for each other but no one admitted their ture need to each other. Of course that relationship broke apart a few week later.

He still looks for a totally different girl when writing or talking from what he wants when talking to me. how can a girl figure out what he wants or needs if he is too stupid to admit his own innermost desires and needs - too coward to admit his needs, fantasies and hunger for love.

To avoid such dilemma - following love-advice

either a man instantly within the very first few minutes of your very first date admits all you love to feal and do and share as well ...

or

forget that man and look for another man!

someone too conservative to tell frankly all his fantasies the very first seconds or minutes of the first date may keep you waiting for an entire lifetime until you are old and ready to die!

Under NO circumstances hope for a few days or even weeks - never give a 3rd chance next week, never accept a later !

Now or never
all or nothing at all

better no problem-man,
than a lifelong disaster-man

girls:

If you are in love with a man and ready to fall in love, to love - beyond limits but have any doubts about your lover, ask him direct and straight forward:

What do you love to do with me now ?

If you love his answer because he say and does what you love the very seconds you ask - marry him the very night and stay with him - else divorce, no second chance. There is at least one out on this planet who is ready to say and do immediately what you really love most - provided you too have the courage to let your love flow freely and instantly. A fire once started either needs to be nourished or it will die. Either you want a magic life of love - or a boring life for ever. Your choice. Your reaction to him - your own courage to truthfully admit and confess all your innermost desires and fantasies also is needed. You too need to know what you love and enjoy most. When you meet a lover and fall in love - you have 3 minutes to be aware of your true inner state and live up to your innermost being. Else all the magic of love is killed and most likely such magic of love once killed never can be revived again.

better happy alone than stressed and sexually frustrated for life

Love and bliss

hans